End of Life Planning – “Good to go” from NPR broadcast

End of life planning — “The Book”

Settling the affairs of someone who dies is a onerous task. It must be started concurrent with grieving. There are all sorts of legalities. Tax issues. Bills due, memorial planning, and often family issues long dormant need to be handled.
My mother-in-law, before she died at 97, created “the book”  for her end of life planning method. She had references to all insurance, bank accounts, wills, and directives, My sister-in-law, the estate administrator, still did not have an easy time. It is just plain a lot of work, some sleuthing, learning about the legalities. And yet in comparison with when my dad died, it was an easy job. Because she had “The Book.”

Susan and I have been compiling our own form of “The Book.”  We call it the “Red Book” because it’s in a red binder. We know there are still missing things. Our will needs updating, not all financial items are detailed, but we do have medical directives, passwords, body donor papers, and everything we have been able to think of, detailed.

“Good to go” – a to do list

It’s the “everything we have been able to think of” that is the problem. We don’t know what we are missing. So, the other morning when I heard the NPR Morning edition news cast about a woman who has started a business helping people create “the book” which she, Amy Pickard, calls the “Good to Go” files. She has an outline of items to be included. She provides phone or skype interviews to those who wish support, and she encourages parties to help  friends and family become aware of the need for “Good to go” files. “Everyone, at all ages”, she says, “needs this.”

I thoroughly endorse the concept that she is doing, but I personally haven’t seen her material, and since Susan and I are well along on our own notebook we probably won;t buy her $55 dollar outline. If  you do, I’d appreciate your review of the material in the comments section below.

NPR Interview

“Good to Go” website

 

The Brains Way of Healing

The Brains Way of Healing

I am constantly amazed at the possibilities of our brain to heal and to change. This book relates personal experiences of people the author has known, interviewed or worked with who have made significant changes using techniques like red light, purposeful walking, sound therapy and more. To date, much of it is still at the anecdotal level of research and I personally hope some of the techniques will  come into being while I could still utilize them! Like my knees. Regenerative tissue would be wonderful. I think.

The book is informative and written for the layman.

If you’d like to purchase the book:

* Try your local book store

* Check it out at your library

* Look at the Amazon reviews and perhaps order.

(Note: If you purchase from Amazon I get a tiny amount which helps  me to maintain this site, but as a long time Independent Book Store Supporter, please try your local book store first.)

 

 

“Your own baseline.”

“Your own baseline.”

This is from “The gift of Caring.” When an older person goes into the hospital, the staff takes the base line of the person as what they see right then. You may have been very active, a whiz at words, and full of creativity. Then you fall. You are given pain pills, something else happens and you are sent to the ER. Now with sloppy, slurred, enunciation,  a lack of balance, and other signs of dementia. The staff assumes dementia and looks no further. For a 50 year old they would not have that bias. But for a 90 year old it just comes with the territory.”  The book strongly suggests that we all have a baseline of how we are, kept up to date on a regular basis.

Check your library for a copy,

or your local book store,

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My dwindling cohort – Memories from Anonymous

My dwindling cohort – Memories from Anonymous

For those of us who were born in the depression and early world war II years this essay, author unknown (from a google search,possibly Ted Nugent -https://m.facebook.com/tednugent/posts/10154501062527297), forwarded to me from my sister in law is a memory jogger. I grew up in the era, and have both fond memories and permanent scars. If only I could pick and choose what to bring forward!
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> Children of “The Greatest Generation”
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> Born in the 1930s and early 40s, we exist as a very special age cohort. We
> are the Silent Generation. We are the smallest number of children born since
> the early 1900s. We are the “last ones.”
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> We are the last generation, climbing out of the depression, who can remember
> the winds of war and the impact of a world at war which rattled the
> structure of our daily lives for years.
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> We are the last to remember ration books for everything from gas to sugar to
> shoes to stoves.
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> We saved tin foil and poured fat into tin cans.
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> We hand mixed white stuff with yellow stuff to make fake butter.
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> We saw cars up on blocks because tires weren’t available.
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> We can remember milk being delivered to our house early in the morning and
> placed in the milk box on the porch. [A friend’s mother delivered milk in a
> horse-drawn cart.]
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> We are the last to hear Roosevelt’s radio assurances and to see gold stars
> in the front windows of our grieving neighbors.
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> We can also remember the parades on August 15, 1945, VJ Day.
>
> We saw the “boys” home from the war build their Cape Cod style houses,
> pouring the cellar, tar papering it over and living there until they could
> afford the time and money to build it out.
>
>
>
> We are the last generation who spent childhood without television. Instead
> we imagined what we heard on the radio. As we all like to brag, with no TV,
> we spent our childhood “playing outside until the street lights came on.”
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> We did play outside and we did play on our own. There was no Little League.
> There was no city playground for kids. To play in the water, we turned the
> fire hydrants on and ran through the spray.
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>
> The lack of television in our early years meant, for most of us, that we had
> little real understanding of what the world was like. Our Saturday
> afternoons, if at the movies, gave us newsreels of the war and the Holocaust
> sandwiched in between westerns and cartoons.
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> Telephones were one to a house, often shared and hung on the wall. Computers
> were called calculators and were hand cranked. Typewriters were driven by
> pounding fingers, throwing the carriage, and changing the ribbon.
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> The Internet and Google were words that didn’t exist. Newspapers and
> magazines were written for adults. We are the last group who had to find out
> for ourselves.
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> As we grew up, the country was exploding with growth. The G.I. Bill gave
> returning veterans the means to get an education and spurred colleges to
> grow. VA loans fanned a housing boom. Pent-up demand coupled with new
> installment payment plans put factories to work.
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> New highways would bring jobs and mobility. The veterans joined civic clubs
> and became active in politics. In the late 40s and early 50s the country
> seemed to lie in the embrace of brisk but quiet order as it gave birth to
> its new middle class (which became known as Baby Boomers).
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> The radio network expanded from 3 stations to thousands of stations. The
> telephone started to become a common method of communications and “Faxes”
> sent hard copy around the world.
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> Our parents were suddenly free from the confines of the depression and the
> war and they threw themselves into exploring opportunities they had never
> imagined.
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> We weren’t neglected but we weren’t today’s all-consuming family focus. They
> were glad we played by ourselves “until the street lights came on.’” They
> were busy discovering the post war world.
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> Most of us had no life plan, but with the unexpected virtue of ignorance and
> an economic rising tide we simply stepped into the world and started to find
> out what the world was about.
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> We entered a world of overflowing plenty and opportunity, a world where we
> were welcomed. Based on our naïve belief that there was more where this came
> from, we shaped life as we went.
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>
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> We enjoyed a luxury. We felt secure in our future. Of course, just as today,
> not all Americans shared in this experience. Depression poverty was deep
> rooted.
>
> Polio was still a crippler.
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>
> The Korean War was a dark presage in the early 50s, and by mid-decade,
> school children were ducking under desks.
>
> Russia built the Iron Curtin and China became Red China.
>
> Eisenhower sent the first “advisors” to Vietnam, and years later, Johnson
> invented a war there.
>
> Castro set up camp in Cuba and Khrushchev came to power.
>
>
>
> We are the last generation to experience an interlude when there were no
> existential threats to our homeland. We came of age in the 40s and early
> 50s. The war was over and the Cold War, terrorism, Martin Luther King, civil
> rights, technological upheaval, global warming, and perpetual economic
> insecurity had yet to haunt life with insistent unease.
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> Only our generation can remember both a time of apocalyptic war and a time
> when our world was secure and full of bright promise and plenty. We have
> lived through both.
>
>
>
> We grew up at the best possible time, a time when the world was getting
> better, not worse.
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> We are the Silent Generation, “the last ones.”
>
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> Author unknown
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>
>
> The last of us was born in 1942, more than 99.9% of us are either retired or
> dead, and all of us believe we grew up in the best of times!

Keeping Healthy while aging

I’ve just read “Keeping Healthy while aging,” and there are a number of take-aways.
1. Medicine is changing with great rapidity. For some elective procedures it might be better to wait. For instance I am having knee problems. It’s not too debilitating, I can walk 15 – 20 blocks, and I can do some dancing, but it has slowed me down quite a lot. And sometimes it hurts to just go from one room to another. Carrying things is a problem and makes the knee ache worse. So, should I push for knee surgery right now? I’m thinking I will use walking sticks and an off loading knee brace, easy adaptations and put off surgery as long as possible. Smart? Dumb?

2 Most over the counter vitamins are not needed if you eat a varied diet. I try for 7 kinds of vegetables and fruits. I’m dropping to my eye vitamins and a tablespoon of fish oil daily. Smart? Dumb?

3. Big data, genomics, metabolomics data, need to be obtained for your personal base lines – and shared,anonymously, for researchers. I don’t have much to share, but I glad to do it. Smart? ort Dumb?

The Longevity Project -Howard Friedman & Leslie Martin c 2011

The Longevity Project -Howard Friedman & Leslie Martin c 2011

In 1921 Dr Lewis Terman created a study group of 1528 children. Children selected by their teachers to be well adjusted and with potential. The idea was to follow these children for a lifetime to try and determine the traits and lifestyles which might provide predictors to longevity. The study has continued and one product, long after Dr Terman/s death is this book.

There is no poly-pill. Genes matter, life style matters, medical situations matter, and trauma, accidents, matter. Simply, (actually never simply) eating well, exercising, drinking sufficient water, staying trim, are all good – but no guarantee of a long life.

A couple of traits do stand out. Being conscientious. Those children deamed by teachers as conscientious, trying to do right, both maintained the trait over adulthood, but also lived, in general, long lives. Those people with large and solid social networks do well.

Many “myths” about ageing are addressed. The chapters include discussions about catastrophic thinking, divorce, masculinity/femininity, athletics, careers, religion, wars, and a last chapter about individual positive paths.

The book is aa easy and interesting read, full of statistics, and nicely enhanced with personal stories. Their motto; “follow the data.”

 

The Longevity Project -Howard Friedman & Leslie Martin c 2011

In 1921 Dr Lewis Terman created a study group of 1528 children. Children selected by their teachers to be well adjusted and with potential. The idea was to follow these children for a lifetime to try and determine the traits and lifestyles which might provide predictors to longevity. The study has continued and one product, long after Dr Terman/s death is this book.

There is no poly-pill. Genes matter, life style matters, medical situations matter, and trauma, accidents, matter. Simply, (actually never simply) eating well, exercising, drinking sufficient water, staying trim, are all good – but no guarantee of a long life.

A couple of traits do stand out. Being conscientious. Those children deaned by teachers as conscientious, trying to do right, both maintained the trait over adulthood, but also lived, in general, long lives. Those people with large and solid social networks do well.

Many “myths” about ageing are addressed. The chapters include discussions about catastrophic thinking, divorce, masculinity/femininity, athletics, careers, religion, wars, and a last chapter about individual positive paths.

The book is aa easy and interesting read, full of statistics, and nicely enhanced with personal stories. Their motto; “follow the data.”