www.compasionate choices
www.deathwithdignity
Tinkering Toward Art
An organized collection of galleries of our art, posts on various topics, and sections called Our art of (slow travel, housebuilding, workshop;garden; and other topics as we see fit.
www.compasionate choices
www.deathwithdignity
The Brains Way of Healing
I am constantly amazed at the possibilities of our brain to heal and to change. This book relates personal experiences of people the author has known, interviewed or worked with who have made significant changes using techniques like red light, purposeful walking, sound therapy and more. To date, much of it is still at the anecdotal level of research and I personally hope some of the techniques will come into being while I could still utilize them! Like my knees. Regenerative tissue would be wonderful. I think.
The book is informative and written for the layman.
If you’d like to purchase the book:
* Check it out at your library
* Look at the Amazon reviews and perhaps order.
(Note: If you purchase from Amazon I get a tiny amount which helps me to maintain this site, but as a long time Independent Book Store Supporter, please try your local book store first.)
From: https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=stroke%20symptoms
“Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e. Chicken Soup)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke ——– Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another ‘sign’ of a stroke is this: Ask the person to ‘stick’ out his tongue. If the tongue is
‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other that is also an indication of a stroke.”
Links:
Source of the above symptoms to watch for: https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=stroke%20symptoms
A little more detailed: http://yourwellness.guide/2017/10/09/13-signs-of-a-stroke/
Soil Test with just Vinegar and Baking soda
We enjoy gardening and we enjoy the fresh vegetables and fruit that is abundant for almost half of the year.
However, our soil is in constant need of care. In contrast to the rich river loam just down the hill from us, we have clay. Very icky and yucky and dangerously slippery in the winter, and nearly impervious to spading in the summer. Over the years we have added sand, lots of leaves, and compost of our own making.
How can we tell, though, whether this years soil is acidic or alkyd? We can send small samples out for testing, or try the baking soda and vinegar method described here:
Here’s a link to a method that uses vinegar and baking soda.
“Your own baseline.”
This is from “The gift of Caring.” When an older person goes into the hospital, the staff takes the base line of the person as what they see right then. You may have been very active, a whiz at words, and full of creativity. Then you fall. You are given pain pills, something else happens and you are sent to the ER. Now with sloppy, slurred, enunciation, a lack of balance, and other signs of dementia. The staff assumes dementia and looks no further. For a 50 year old they would not have that bias. But for a 90 year old it just comes with the territory.” The book strongly suggests that we all have a baseline of how we are, kept up to date on a regular basis.
Check your library for a copy,
or your local book store,
or click here to see reviews and if desired purchase at Amazon.
(A tiny amount comes back to me to support this site for any purchase done on this link)
Sometimes one just needs a different perspective.
Exercise and aging – Links -in process
Here’s some links that I started- probably on the kansas trip. I need to check them out, put in some narrative, etc.
https://m.facebook.com/dialog/feed?app_id=9869919170&link=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nytimes.com%2F2017%2F03%2F23%2Fwell%2Fmove%2Fthe-best-exercise-for-aging-muscles.html%3Fmwrsm%3DFacebook&name=The+Best+Exercise+for+AginByg+Muscles&redirect_uri=http%3A%2F%2Fmobile.nytimes.com%2F2017%2F03%2F23%2Fwell%2Fmove%2Fthe-best-exercise-for-aging-muscles.html
Exercises to avoid as we age
Silver Sneakers web site. Look over the web site? Can any one join? Link to the article? write a short blurb about the article.
The 7 worst exercises for Older Adults
My dwindling cohort – Memories from Anonymous
For those of us who were born in the depression and early world war II years this essay, author unknown (from a google search,possibly Ted Nugent -https://m.facebook.com/tednugent/posts/10154501062527297), forwarded to me from my sister in law is a memory jogger. I grew up in the era, and have both fond memories and permanent scars. If only I could pick and choose what to bring forward!
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> are the Silent Generation. We are the smallest number of children born since
> the early 1900s. We are the “last ones.”
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> We are the last generation, climbing out of the depression, who can remember
> the winds of war and the impact of a world at war which rattled the
> structure of our daily lives for years.
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> We are the last to remember ration books for everything from gas to sugar to
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> placed in the milk box on the porch. [A friend’s mother delivered milk in a
> horse-drawn cart.]
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> We are the last to hear Roosevelt’s radio assurances and to see gold stars
> in the front windows of our grieving neighbors.
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> pouring the cellar, tar papering it over and living there until they could
> afford the time and money to build it out.
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> We are the last generation who spent childhood without television. Instead
> we imagined what we heard on the radio. As we all like to brag, with no TV,
> we spent our childhood “playing outside until the street lights came on.”
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> There was no city playground for kids. To play in the water, we turned the
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> little real understanding of what the world was like. Our Saturday
> afternoons, if at the movies, gave us newsreels of the war and the Holocaust
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> were called calculators and were hand cranked. Typewriters were driven by
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> magazines were written for adults. We are the last group who had to find out
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> returning veterans the means to get an education and spurred colleges to
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> war and they threw themselves into exploring opportunities they had never
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> were glad we played by ourselves “until the street lights came on.’” They
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> an economic rising tide we simply stepped into the world and started to find
> out what the world was about.
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> were welcomed. Based on our naïve belief that there was more where this came
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> not all Americans shared in this experience. Depression poverty was deep
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> invented a war there.
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> existential threats to our homeland. We came of age in the 40s and early
> 50s. The war was over and the Cold War, terrorism, Martin Luther King, civil
> rights, technological upheaval, global warming, and perpetual economic
> insecurity had yet to haunt life with insistent unease.
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> when our world was secure and full of bright promise and plenty. We have
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> dead, and all of us believe we grew up in the best of times!
I’ve just read “Keeping Healthy while aging,” and there are a number of take-aways.
1. Medicine is changing with great rapidity. For some elective procedures it might be better to wait. For instance I am having knee problems. It’s not too debilitating, I can walk 15 – 20 blocks, and I can do some dancing, but it has slowed me down quite a lot. And sometimes it hurts to just go from one room to another. Carrying things is a problem and makes the knee ache worse. So, should I push for knee surgery right now? I’m thinking I will use walking sticks and an off loading knee brace, easy adaptations and put off surgery as long as possible. Smart? Dumb?
2 Most over the counter vitamins are not needed if you eat a varied diet. I try for 7 kinds of vegetables and fruits. I’m dropping to my eye vitamins and a tablespoon of fish oil daily. Smart? Dumb?
3. Big data, genomics, metabolomics data, need to be obtained for your personal base lines – and shared,anonymously, for researchers. I don’t have much to share, but I glad to do it. Smart? ort Dumb?
Hiring household help
This is a link to a hospice written article on writing a PD for help, interviewing, what legal forms are needed, etc. It is currently out of date, but the methodology is timeless. Some things: Fill out the I9 form. Social security taxes must be paid if over $2000 total paid. Be sure home owners insurance covers in home workers. Do a PD so that both parties are aware of duties and agree on them. Always interview first.
Link to hospice article
The Longevity Project -Howard Friedman & Leslie Martin c 2011
In 1921 Dr Lewis Terman created a study group of 1528 children. Children selected by their teachers to be well adjusted and with potential. The idea was to follow these children for a lifetime to try and determine the traits and lifestyles which might provide predictors to longevity. The study has continued and one product, long after Dr Terman/s death is this book.
There is no poly-pill. Genes matter, life style matters, medical situations matter, and trauma, accidents, matter. Simply, (actually never simply) eating well, exercising, drinking sufficient water, staying trim, are all good – but no guarantee of a long life.
A couple of traits do stand out. Being conscientious. Those children deamed by teachers as conscientious, trying to do right, both maintained the trait over adulthood, but also lived, in general, long lives. Those people with large and solid social networks do well.
Many “myths” about ageing are addressed. The chapters include discussions about catastrophic thinking, divorce, masculinity/femininity, athletics, careers, religion, wars, and a last chapter about individual positive paths.
The book is aa easy and interesting read, full of statistics, and nicely enhanced with personal stories. Their motto; “follow the data.”
How to get around – without a car
Here is a pdf of a proposal made by hree emeritus professors from Oregon State to move away from cars. I like the thoughts.
Here’s the link.
BBC-Podcast: Living long lives – Blessing or Curse
A one hour podcast about living well to advanced ages – and some worries and cautions.
The BBC News Hour Extre guests:
Dr Anne Karpf – Author of ‘How to Age’
Prof Lynda Gratton – Author of ‘The 100 Year Life’
Dr Alexandre Kalache – Co-President of the International Longevity Centre, Brazil
Also featuring:
Dr Bill Frankland – medical doctor still working at 105
Aging with purpose – Time magazine article
“Having a purpose in life may help people maintain their function and independence as they age, according to a new study published in JAMA Psychiatry. People in the study who reported having goals and a sense of meaning were less likely to have weak grip strength and slow walking speeds: two signs of declining physical ability and risk factors for disability.”
You are welcome to share your purpose in life in the comments section.
Here’s the link to the article:
Aging with purpose -Time magazine article
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Time article- Aging with Purpose
We’ll start with some background of how I see my own stages of elderhood.
At 60 I didn’t understand what this getting older was all about. I skied, I hiked, I romanced, I worked, I danced.
At 70, I still skied, and hiked, and danced, but everything at a bit slower pace. Many, especially male, friends started dying – a sad eye opener to my own mortality.
At 80 my knees limit my hiking, have stopped my skiing. Romancing is a lot of effort. There is a definite feeling of being older than most, and a feeling of appreciation when younger folks accept Susan and me in their activities as a peer instead of a relic.
At 90? I wonder. we know people in their 90’s who are active and enthusiastic. That’s where we hope to be. We also see the frailness of those in their 90’s, the need for help, even when their spirit of independence is soaring.
I’m involved in this aging experiment. I find it fascinating, strangely satisfying and enjoyable, despite the many needed adaptations, and curious in my acceptance of the mystery of the future.
I find it inspiring to know, and to read about the many people who have and are living very active, fulfilling lives at far advanced ages.
If anything, my curiosity for “just knowing” has expanded as I stack up the years. Alexa and her access to the internet is a joy, my skill at researching topics with the vast amount of information available right from my desktop computer is a continuous source of satisfaction. I find sanctuary roaming the library, scanning the ever-changing magazines, picking a section in the reference area and just roaming through the books, browsing well-run bookstores and marvelling at their selections of enticing books. I know I can’t read them all, but I can scan many of them.
For years I have kept a log of my findings, my activities, my research into -whatever. It’s not a job, it’s a need. It’s like when a writer is asked why do you write? Many respond, “I write because I must.” Ditto for me and my “philo-research.”
I’m also a do it-your-selfer. Over the years I and my especially supportive spouse, have engaged in many projects. We’ve designed and hand built two houses, we started and ran a local, well-respected business, now under our son’s tutelage which just celebrated 45 years of operation. We grow and process a lot of our own food. We both are active in our own are creative endeavours. We slow travel for a month or more in most years in our, by today’s standards, tiny Toyota Tacoma pickup camper. We designed and coordinated a Burning Man festival theme camp for a number of years. We like dancing and tend toward the diy freedoms of improvisation.
We’re socially active, but rather shy, which gives us the energy of groups without the need to conform to undesirable, to us, group norms.
We’re the last of the great depression era babies. We were born into an era of needed furgality. We continue a frugal, just enough, life style because it feels right to us.
And now, by any standard, we have joined, been thrust, to the ranks of elder-hood. As we look over this scene of elders we find their is a lot of research going on for those elders who have been struck by the ails of elder-hood. But not much for those of us who are still very active and wish to continue this way – till we can’t.
I have often wondered why the medical profession is so intent on studying those who are sick. Why not study those that are well? It seems gerontology, the study of aging, continues the spirit of studying and compiling statistics for those in need without bothering to study those who seem to be doing well..
Why not, I wondered, promote the study of wellness in aging through my and Susan’s own experiences? We expect, we too, will succumb eventually to the scourges, debilitations, and indignities of truly old age, but till that happens we want to stay as active, lively, enthusiastic, and full of vigor, as possible.
Why not chronicle our activities, our research, our joys, and our disappointments, our set backs and our accomplishments, in this most fascinating, individualized, experiment of a life time – aging.
We hope you find topics of interest,and expand upon them in the comments, and perhaps send us ideas, topics for research, or your own essays of your ideas and experiences.
James (the I in the writing)
and
Susan (the “us”, “we” and “our” in the writing)
Here’s a group working for all of us aging folk
From their site: https://theradicalagemovement.com/about-the-radical-age-movement/
“Working together we can:
Challenge ageism – in ourselves, social practices, policies, and institutions
Create new language and models that embrace the full life journey;
Create new paradigms in society so that adults can participate fully consistent with their capabilities and ambitions at all stages of life;
Celebrate the contributions of older adults toward innovating, changing and repairing the world;
Create a more compassionate and interdependent society that supports the wellbeing of people of all ages;
Inspire and help develop cross-generational communities where people of all ages enjoy the gifts and capacities they have to offer;
Bring dying and death out of the closet.
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One woman’s blog about travel to volunteer work locations, workshops, etc.
Purposeful travel website: http://purposefultravel.net/
I heard on NPR this morning a interview with an 80 plus year old Japanese lady who at 53 came to the US to study gerontology, then at 83 started a “cheer leading” group which is still performing.
It’s a heartwarming example of staying relevant, staying active, and enjoying life while aging.
Here’s a link to see them in action and to learn more about the program.